Monday, December 20, 2010

Merry Christmas From The.....

Allens? What do you put on a card when you have lost a child? This is a question that arises each time I sign a card whether birthday or Christmas. Sometimes I put Evan's name on it and other times I just put the Allens. It doesn't seem fitting to leave his name off when he is still our child, just not physically present.

We have not sent out Christmas cards since December 2007. That was the last Christmas that Evan spent with us. This year I decided it was time to take photos and send the cards. Being an overwhelming emotional task Nate and I decided to make a laugh out of it. Then we couldn't decide whether to include first names, last names, etc.

This is the photo and the message. We didn't include any names...

From Our Misfits To Yours....

Have A Merry Christmas And A Blessed New Year

3 comments:

Ella Faith's Mommy said...

This is such a hard decision! I'm sorry you had such a difficult time with it! I think your card is perfect!! Hope you had a Merry Christmas and will have a great New Year!!!

Kairos said...

I haven't managed Christmas cards since Drew died yet. Your idea of not signing them seems nice and the picture is really cute.

We have been taking pictures of our family in from of the tree though, just not using them in the card like we would have. We try to include something Drew in them. Last year it was the memory bear that has a locket with his picture inside. This year it was the ornament my daughter made for him at preschool.

Jessica said...

I sign everything Shane, Jessica, Campbell, and Ansleybin heaven. I just can not NOT put her name.

"While we try and teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about."